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Praying in Secret
Matthew 6:5-6.
There are few passages in the gospels where Jesus offers concrete, practical advice—almost to the point where a literal interpretation is called for. When we read “love your enemies,” for example, we are invited to apply this teaching to our lives, knowing that it is a challenge to love that is possible only with God’s help. But when we hear “When you pray, go into your room,” or to a private place, this is a practical example that most people can follow at home.
In light of this simple and clear teaching of Jesus, the first lesson we can draw from this Gospel counsel—or the most appropriate reflection we can undertake—is to attempt without further delay to put these words of Jesus into practice and find a quiet and private space. Second, it remains important to place this text in its gospel context and to see its relevance for our own time.
This passage is part of a series of Jesus’s teachings on Jewish piety and the new perspective he brings to it. This new perspective may seem like a thing of the past to us, since we have already heard stories about Jesus many times. Or, it may seem to us that there is nothing particularly original in his words, given the proliferation of self-care and mindfulness techniques that encourage the pursuit of solitude, self-acceptance, and meditation.
In its context, this teaching is not a praise of the private over the public, but a warning about the meaning of religious practices. Public piety runs the risk of hypocrisy, and in the face of this, private piety—involving direct communication with God—frees one from the gaze of others. Secret prayer is liberating for those who acknowledge that they do not know how to pray and who can then pray with the simplicity of a child, without worrying too much about the correctness of their words.
But more than just practical advice, more than a form of self-care, and far more than a warning against hypocrisy, this example holds up Jesus’s own filial relationship as a model for prayer. It is as if Jesus were saying: do not pray in public, but above all, do not pray as if God were distant. The novelty of Jesus’ message and this teaching is that we know we are loved before we know we are heard, and that we can therefore be heard.
The example of Jesus, who withdraws to pray alone in many gospel passages, shows that he himself sought a unique intimacy with God, a personal connection. Through this gospel passage, Jesus continues to offer communion with God to everyone without exception.